Couples Counselling
Strengthening connection and understanding together
Understanding Relationship Challenges
Every relationship goes through difficult periods. Whether you have been together for months or decades, the pressures of daily life, unresolved conflicts, and shifting personal needs can create distance between partners. You may find that conversations that once flowed easily now lead to arguments, or that a growing silence has settled between you that feels impossible to break.
Communication breakdown is one of the most common reasons couples seek therapy, but beneath the surface there are often deeper currents at work — unspoken fears, past hurts, mismatched expectations, or patterns inherited from our own families of origin. Over time, these unaddressed dynamics can erode the trust, intimacy, and emotional safety that once held your relationship together.
Seeking help as a couple is not a sign of failure. In fact, it takes real courage and commitment to acknowledge that your relationship needs support. Choosing to enter couples counselling together is an act of hope — a shared decision to invest in something that matters deeply to both of you. It signals a willingness to understand each other more fully, even when that understanding feels difficult to reach on your own.
How Couples Therapy Can Help
In my work with couples, I draw on a psychodynamic approach, which means we look beyond the immediate disagreements to explore the deeper emotional patterns shaping how you relate to one another. Many of the ways we connect — or disconnect — in our closest relationships are rooted in early attachment experiences and unconscious dynamics that neither partner may be fully aware of. By bringing these patterns into awareness, we open the door to genuine and lasting change.
Together, we create a safe therapeutic space where both partners can feel heard without judgement. I help you develop the tools to communicate more openly and honestly, to listen with empathy rather than defensiveness, and to express your needs in ways your partner can truly receive. Where trust has been damaged — whether through betrayal, emotional withdrawal, or repeated conflict — we work carefully to rebuild it, one step at a time.
“the relationship is the therapy”
This guiding principle is central to all my therapeutic work, and it is especially meaningful in couples counselling. The relationship between you and your partner becomes the focus of our sessions — the living, breathing space where healing happens. I also welcome and affirm LGBTQ+ couples, providing an inclusive environment where all relationships are respected and valued. Whatever your circumstances, the goal is always the same: to help you reconnect with the bond that brought you together in the first place, and to build a relationship that can hold both of you with care and honesty.
You Might Benefit from Couples Counselling If…
- You and your partner keep having the same arguments without resolution, and conversations feel circular or exhausting
- There is a growing emotional distance between you, and you feel more like housemates than partners
- Trust has been broken through infidelity, dishonesty, or emotional betrayal, and you are unsure how to move forward
- A major life transition — such as parenthood, retirement, relocation, or loss — has placed unexpected strain on your relationship
- You struggle to express your needs or feel that your partner does not understand what you are going through
- Intimacy, both emotional and physical, has diminished and you are not sure how to reconnect
- You want to strengthen a good relationship and deepen your understanding of each other before challenges escalate
Taking the First Step Together
Reaching out for support is one of the most meaningful things you can do for your relationship. You do not need to have all the answers or even agree on what the problem is — that is what the therapeutic process is for. All that is needed is a shared willingness to try. I am here to guide you both through that process with care, respect, and confidentiality.